Yeeesss!!! I didn't know about this either, until my nutritionist (!! None of all the specialists) told me I show symptoms of perimenopause and then I googled it. This should be something that is common knowledge 🤦♀️
I am very curious if anyone has tried the Kim Anami stuff with the egg and all that. Supposedly it helps with periods. I listen to female based podcasts to further my understanding of women and have subscribed to magazines in the same way. 20 years ago that was unheard of. They changed the name on my subscription from Paul to Paula since they assumed it was a mistake. 😂
There's definitely a range of reactions to periods. I've seen the gamut from what seems like forever PMS to menopause transition is over and I'm only telling you after the fact because you asked. We are on the outside looking in and a bit helpless.
All of this is so relatable! I’m actually working on a Q&A that I’ll post here with a perimenopause expert and coach! She’s The Periprofessional on Substack if you’re looking for more resources! I’m very curious about the link between perimenopause, menopause, and brain health in women. Specifically as it relates to Alzheimer’s and dementia. So much to learn and really so little research/resources!
I absolutely hated having periods. I’d take two packs of The Pill to halve the number I had. Then I had an IUD fitted and didn’t have periods for a whole four years. The menopause was not my idea of fun either, and HRT didn’t work. However, I am now joyously post-menopausal and am no longer spending money on sanitary products. I still have AuADHD so I can be horribly irritable without the need for hormones, but, I am, at least, better at being assertive because I no longer feel my needs aren’t worth being cared about. Good luck for your 40s Maggie. It will be very unpleasant but worth it in the end.
Absolutely. People know about the physical symptoms but often think they are confined to hot flushes. I had brain fog, muscle aches, increased anxiety and was tired all the time. I think it is so positive that we are talking about this now. It is, indeed, best to be prepared.
I'm 42 and at this point, me and my hormones have seen it all but what always amazes me is how eerily similar my symptoms are month after month. I don't track that shit because who wants to relive it? But it's like clockwork. One night each month I have trouble sleeping, a couple days before my period I become irritable and (this is new and might be perimenopause-related) NOW I'm irritable during ovulation, too! Anyway, always fun being a woman, right?
"Also, please tell the women in your life about perimenopause."
Yeah, I ain't doing that, Maggie. I dated enough up though my 40s to know you do NOT tell a woman about 'women stuff,' even in a compassionate manner; you may KNOW what is happening, but you do NOT share it - you offer support, and if unwanted you endure in silence LOL
Of course, I have not been romantically (or otherwise) involved with anyone for coming up on nine years, so for the moment I am relatively protected from what you discuss. However, it IS a fascinating topic, and I enjoyed reading it :-)
I'm glad you enjoyed it 🙏 About the not telling us, that depends on the emotional maturity of the woman in question, how you say it, and when. If mid-possibly-hormone-induced-fight you say "Christ you crazy bitch, you might want to look into perimenopause because you're being way too sensitive" I suggest you flee asap, change your name and move overseas.
But if you bring up at a random moment that you read this post once about PMS which also talked about perimenopause and you were surprised to hear that perimenopause can start in your thirties, you would have a very different conversation.
Hi Maggie ,Trust me I will never feel the woman's side of it ,Yet have definitely felt the men's side . All I used to do is get her what she needed and leave her alone , Best way to handle it . Hugs and peace to you
It depends on the person, it is up to the woman to figure out what she wants/needs AND communicate that clearly. Right before my period everybody better leave me alone, but the horribly painful days before that, I love having my partner around to cuddle 🤷♀️ But yes, it ain't easy for either party.
Most guys i thought would understand what you just said . Yet sadly many don't .You are right their needs to be understanding and communication by both . Is a great article though Maggie . hugs and peace
Usually when women start talking about female problems, I figure it’s my job as a clueless male to shut up, take notes and listen. This is no exception. (But just in case, I like you very much in a platonically friendly way.)
Honestly it would be nice to hear what men think about all this. You can't speak from your experience as a woman of course, but you can talk from your experience on the other side of it all. And same here ❤️
Well, I first want to say I’ve known women (multiple) who just figured lots of pain and discomfort every month was their lot in life, until they found out there was an underlying cause (like fibroids), and once they were treated felt a lot better and wished they’d had it taken care of years earlier. As for the man’s experience, you feel bad that your partner is suffering, and worse because you only have a vague academic idea of the suffering. In some cases, you might recognize the symptoms before they do, but you (hopefully) know better than to say “is it that time of month again”? Because whatever is going on, you don’t want to sound dismissive; and for her it’s very real and she’s experiencing it and dismissal is not an option. (And if you’re incorrect, it’s a whole different kind of dismissal.)
It’s not fun seeing your partner in distress. Nor having them emotionally not being themselves. You also don’t want to complain because you know that however you’re inconvenienced, they’re actually suffering.
Hahah well, it's up to both parties to deal with it. Though honestly, who I am during PMS and who I am normally is night and day. I can 'suppress' the emotional turmoil somewhat, but it just kind of takes over at some point.
For real!!! Why don't more women talk about this? I was today years old when I learned that raspiness is a symptom of perimenopause.
Yeeesss!!! I didn't know about this either, until my nutritionist (!! None of all the specialists) told me I show symptoms of perimenopause and then I googled it. This should be something that is common knowledge 🤦♀️
I was one of the fat O 😉 but not anymore thanks to you bella
Aww si 🫂
Tell me what I can’t read and of course I have to read it. But I played the mind of a boy while reading, well done.
Haha of course! Thank you so much 🙏
I am very curious if anyone has tried the Kim Anami stuff with the egg and all that. Supposedly it helps with periods. I listen to female based podcasts to further my understanding of women and have subscribed to magazines in the same way. 20 years ago that was unheard of. They changed the name on my subscription from Paul to Paula since they assumed it was a mistake. 😂
There's definitely a range of reactions to periods. I've seen the gamut from what seems like forever PMS to menopause transition is over and I'm only telling you after the fact because you asked. We are on the outside looking in and a bit helpless.
Hmm not sure about the egg, but I love that you are researching it all 🙏 And yes I can imagine you feel helpless. So do we 😅
Oh boy wait till you reach menopause I’m 54 ! 🙈🙈🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ I feel like perimenopause is a tester , a bit like Braxton Hicks contractions 😜
Everybody is different, so I'm hoping it won't be too bad 🤷♀️
You had me at slow walkers!
Right?! 😂
All of this is so relatable! I’m actually working on a Q&A that I’ll post here with a perimenopause expert and coach! She’s The Periprofessional on Substack if you’re looking for more resources! I’m very curious about the link between perimenopause, menopause, and brain health in women. Specifically as it relates to Alzheimer’s and dementia. So much to learn and really so little research/resources!
Yep, I know her, we've talked before. And absolutely, not enough resources because why should anyone care about 50% of the population am I right 🤦♀️
YOU ARE RIGHT!
I absolutely hated having periods. I’d take two packs of The Pill to halve the number I had. Then I had an IUD fitted and didn’t have periods for a whole four years. The menopause was not my idea of fun either, and HRT didn’t work. However, I am now joyously post-menopausal and am no longer spending money on sanitary products. I still have AuADHD so I can be horribly irritable without the need for hormones, but, I am, at least, better at being assertive because I no longer feel my needs aren’t worth being cared about. Good luck for your 40s Maggie. It will be very unpleasant but worth it in the end.
Absolutely. People know about the physical symptoms but often think they are confined to hot flushes. I had brain fog, muscle aches, increased anxiety and was tired all the time. I think it is so positive that we are talking about this now. It is, indeed, best to be prepared.
Yep. Lots of things are possible. Issues with the throat and vocal chords too.
I'm not looking forward to it but I'm preparing myself. And knowing is MUCH better than thinking you're going crazy 😅
I'm 42 and at this point, me and my hormones have seen it all but what always amazes me is how eerily similar my symptoms are month after month. I don't track that shit because who wants to relive it? But it's like clockwork. One night each month I have trouble sleeping, a couple days before my period I become irritable and (this is new and might be perimenopause-related) NOW I'm irritable during ovulation, too! Anyway, always fun being a woman, right?
Same here, I never had symptoms during ovulation before. Now it's like a mini PMS moment 😓
Died. Accurate. Died again. Brilliant. 😘😘😘
Thank you, beautiful ❤️
"Also, please tell the women in your life about perimenopause."
Yeah, I ain't doing that, Maggie. I dated enough up though my 40s to know you do NOT tell a woman about 'women stuff,' even in a compassionate manner; you may KNOW what is happening, but you do NOT share it - you offer support, and if unwanted you endure in silence LOL
Of course, I have not been romantically (or otherwise) involved with anyone for coming up on nine years, so for the moment I am relatively protected from what you discuss. However, it IS a fascinating topic, and I enjoyed reading it :-)
I'm glad you enjoyed it 🙏 About the not telling us, that depends on the emotional maturity of the woman in question, how you say it, and when. If mid-possibly-hormone-induced-fight you say "Christ you crazy bitch, you might want to look into perimenopause because you're being way too sensitive" I suggest you flee asap, change your name and move overseas.
But if you bring up at a random moment that you read this post once about PMS which also talked about perimenopause and you were surprised to hear that perimenopause can start in your thirties, you would have a very different conversation.
Hi Maggie ,Trust me I will never feel the woman's side of it ,Yet have definitely felt the men's side . All I used to do is get her what she needed and leave her alone , Best way to handle it . Hugs and peace to you
It depends on the person, it is up to the woman to figure out what she wants/needs AND communicate that clearly. Right before my period everybody better leave me alone, but the horribly painful days before that, I love having my partner around to cuddle 🤷♀️ But yes, it ain't easy for either party.
Most guys i thought would understand what you just said . Yet sadly many don't .You are right their needs to be understanding and communication by both . Is a great article though Maggie . hugs and peace
Same to you! ❤️
Usually when women start talking about female problems, I figure it’s my job as a clueless male to shut up, take notes and listen. This is no exception. (But just in case, I like you very much in a platonically friendly way.)
Honestly it would be nice to hear what men think about all this. You can't speak from your experience as a woman of course, but you can talk from your experience on the other side of it all. And same here ❤️
Well, I first want to say I’ve known women (multiple) who just figured lots of pain and discomfort every month was their lot in life, until they found out there was an underlying cause (like fibroids), and once they were treated felt a lot better and wished they’d had it taken care of years earlier. As for the man’s experience, you feel bad that your partner is suffering, and worse because you only have a vague academic idea of the suffering. In some cases, you might recognize the symptoms before they do, but you (hopefully) know better than to say “is it that time of month again”? Because whatever is going on, you don’t want to sound dismissive; and for her it’s very real and she’s experiencing it and dismissal is not an option. (And if you’re incorrect, it’s a whole different kind of dismissal.)
I can imagine it must be horrible for you guys too, yes 😓
It’s not fun seeing your partner in distress. Nor having them emotionally not being themselves. You also don’t want to complain because you know that however you’re inconvenienced, they’re actually suffering.
Yep. Whenever something is wrong with my partner he gets 'prickly' too and it can be hard to deal with that, plus the feeling of powerlessness...
Hahah well, it's up to both parties to deal with it. Though honestly, who I am during PMS and who I am normally is night and day. I can 'suppress' the emotional turmoil somewhat, but it just kind of takes over at some point.